How to Act After a Parenting Mistake


Part of going through life is understanding that you’re not always going to be perfect, and the same thing applies when it comes to parenthood. In some cases, these stakes can go even higher if you are using foster care adoption in Michigan. Because children may be coming from tougher environments, there’s a natural impulse on your part to try and be as on top of things as possible, but in some cases, you may push yourself too far or get caught in a moment or end up lashing out.


It’s important to remember that a relationship between a parent and a child is like any other one in that there will be mistakes made, even if it’s completely accidental. The key is not only taking stock of this for the future, but making sure you know how to react at the moment. Here are some things you want to consider.


For a start, it’s a good idea to try and take note of your own reactions in certain situations. In many cases, upset feelings or feelings of anger can be a sort of indicator to you that a typical parenting situation is starting to go off course. It’s important to make sure that you’re taking note of this because at the end of the day, you are providing guidance to a child even in moments of discipline. As a result, while you want to be firm and set limits, you also want to act with compassion. To navigate this divide, it may be worth it to do things like breathe deeply or recite a mantra if you find yourself getting frustrated in moments of discipline.


Another good thing to do is try and remind yourself of your goals in times like these. After all, what you ultimately want to do is try and teach your child effective ways to behave not just to established a more peaceful household, but a better part of their lives. In order to manage this, you want to make sure that you are keeping yourself in check to avoid modeling a bad way to deal with a frustrating situation.


In addition, after you make a parenting mistake, you want to make it so your child feels comfortable with you again, especially for a foster child. The goal here is to make sure that you have a calmer moment later on to level things off. This will open things up for your guidance once again. Don’t be afraid to get any support you need to do this more effectively as well. You are the parent, so it falls to you to try and patch up any disconnects that happen.



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