How to Handle Negativity as a New Foster Parent

Making the transition into foster care in Grand Rapids can be difficult, especially depending on the background that a child comes from. Hopefully, you’ll have some idea on what this entails going into living with your foster child, but in some cases, it can manifest in ways that you didn’t expect. A good example of this is a child that constantly seems negative. A negative outlook is something that you may associate with a coworker more than a child, but these things do happen. Sometimes, it’s a case where nothing seems good enough, or nothing that you do or they do makes them happy.


It’s important to remember that in some cases, a negative outlook can just be a part of development, whether we’re talking about foster care in Michigan or any other type of setting. Your best course of action is simply to understand what is going on, where these issues are coming from, and what you can do to react. Here are some key starting points to work with.


For one thing, you need to understand that negativity isn’t necessarily a sign of you doing anything wrong, or even something carrying over from before your foster child came to live with you. For toddlers and teenagers especially, negativity is to be expected. As a result, if something catches you off guard, the last thing you want to do is overreact or doubt your own parental skills. In some cases, this may just be out of your hands. With this in mind, it’s also to your benefit if you make the decision to try and delay your reaction rather than suddenly act if your child hits you with that burst of negativity.


Why is this the case? Basically, a negative attitude has a tendency to draw people in and spread if tackled head-on. Your initial best reaction may be to ignore it, not to say you shouldn’t make a note of it, but that you have no need to try and react right away. While you are planning out a way to deal with the negativity, one thing you should do is try and put your child’s perspective into mind. It may be flawed, but it’s still valid, and showing a little bit of empathy can do a lot to help your child.


When it comes to tackling the issue, your response will depend on the severity. In some cases, finding a new outlet for your child is enough to get the job done. In other cases, it may be an indicator of a larger problem, one that you may want professional mental health help with. Use all the resources on hand to try and gauge what is a better fit.



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